Dating violence is controlling, abusive, and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It can happen in homosexual or heterosexual relationships and can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination of the four.
Warning Signs of Dating Violence:
There are many warning signs of dating violence and they should always be taken seriously. A pattern does not have to occur for it to be considered dating violence – one incidence of violence is abuse and it is one too many.
Warning signs of dating violence are similar to those seen in adult domestic violence cases. These signs of dating violence can be seen outside of the relationship and include:
- Truancy, dropping out of school
- Changes in mood or personality
Within the relationship itself, there are also signs of dating violence:
- Checking your cell phone or email without permission
- Constantly putting you down
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity
- Isolating you from family or friends
- Physically hurting you in any way
Source: “Teenage Dating Violence: Signs, Examples of Dating Violence.” Healthy Place.
Becoming a victim of dating violence is not your fault. Nothing you say, wear, or do gives anyone the right to hurt you.
If you think you are in an abusive relationship, get help immediately. Don't keep your concerns to yourself.
Talk to someone you trust, such as a parent, teacher, school principal, counselor, or nurse.
If you choose to tell someone, you should know that some adults are mandated reporters. This means they are legally required to report neglect or abuse to a third party, such as the police or child protective services.
You can ask people if they are mandated reporters and then decide what you want to do. Some examples of mandated reporters are teachers, counselors, doctors, social workers, and in some cases, coaches or activity leaders. If you need help deciding whom to talk to, call a crisis line in your area. You might also want to talk to a trusted family member, a friend’s parent, an adult neighbor or friend, an older sibling or cousin, or other experienced person who you trust.
Resources for Victims of Dating Violence:
如果你選擇告訴別人，你應該要問對方是不是有舉發的義務， 然後再決定是否要告訴他。舉例來說老師，輔導員，醫生，社工。 甚至教練很活動組織者也有可能有要舉發的義務。 如果你需要幫助決定應該要告訴誰，打你當地的求助專線。你也可以選擇告訴你可以信任的家人，你的朋友的父母，你的鄰居，你的兄姐或是堂／表兄弟姐妹， 或是任何一個你可以信任的人。